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Chronic Pain and Depression: How can we help Dad manage his pain?

What is considered chronic pain?

According to an article I recently read, chronic pain is when a person experiences pain for a long period of time. The article said, you have to feel the sensation for six months or longer before it is considered chronic pain. However, living with a person who has been in chronic pain for 4 years or more, I would say chronic pain should be defined as pain that never stops! My dad had two back surgeries that did not go as planned! There was a machine malfunction, he woke up on the table, and nearly died. A lot of trauma! Having said all that…

How does my dad manage chronic pain and trauma?

My dad uses a variety of ways to manage his pain. He experiences a lot of burning in his legs and lower back. He said the pain is excruciating at times. Sometimes he will build a tent around his legs, so that the blankets don’t touch his skin, in bed! He can barely make it around the grocery store without his prescriptions, determination, and a lot of rest afterwards. He loves to take baths and listen to the radio! You should hear my dad say, at the top of his lungs, while in the tub, “Alright Google, play me some country music!”

I try to make the best of it, but it is really sad. It is sad to see the strongest man I know, who takes care of everybody and their momma, be in constant pain!

He hates the way the prescription drugs make him feel. He has always lived a sober lifestyle, aside from a few drinks here and there. He doesn’t feel comfortable, many days, driving a car. Recently, dad started acupuncture. We are all hopeful it will give him some relief!


How does chronic pain cause depression?


I don’t think it is complicated to see how chronic pain can make someone very depressed, fast! We have been doing everything we can to keep my dad in a good mindset! It’s depressing! People who are dealing with chronic pain are more likely to commit suicide. It is really scary!

What do I think has helped my dad stay somewhat happy while managing chronic pain?

Family! We surround him with lots of grand-kids! They make everyone smile. He loves it! His business makes him happy. He has built a small, family-owned, construction business. My mom and sisters have now taken over the company, mostly, since his condition has worsened! However, he still gets to enjoy the business! Also, he has faith, and hopes that someone or something will be able to help him one day! I also think all the small things that he is doing and his mindset, helps a lot! So, we keep him as comfortable as possible, and try to encourage him to try the latest trends, such as acupuncture and CBD creams!

If you have any tips or advice, please reach out! Thanks!



P.S. Top picture was taken in Homer, Alaska! Baby picture was taken on the kitchen table! 🙂

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Why is the “comfort zone” NOT your friend?

Why do people stay in their “comfort zone?”

Most people stay in their “comfort zone” because it is the easy thing to do! I get it. We get stuck in the rut of everyday life. I am not saying that your life is not a beautiful everyday rut. But, we all do it. Comfortable is nice. It’s cozy! It’s the opposite of scary. Which, most of us hate! Staying in your “comfort zone” will not help you grow as a person! Read that twice!


I was recently asked by a coaching coach, or something similar, are you okay with getting outside of your “comfort zone”?

I bet you are wondering what I said!

I said, “I am not the stay in your “comfort zone” kinda’ gal.”

For example, I moved from South Carolina to Alaska with my husband, two dogs, a small trailer full of stuff, and the belief in myself. I knew we would be fine! I am an educated, hard-working, independent woman who is capable of doing great things. It was one of the scariest, but best, decisions we ever made. I have grown so much. I have learned so much about other cultures and have seen most of the United States and Canada via road-trip.

I read somewhere, more people are afraid of public speaking than are afraid of dying. I love speaking in public. Are you kidding me? Just picture them naked!

It is a very valuable skill that is in high demand. Yes, the first couple of times I spoke in front of a crowd, I was nervous. But, working as a teacher and educator, it became normal! It became less scary!

The reason I am ranting about public speaking is, I could have stayed in my comfort zone. I could have gotten out of public speaking most of the times I have spoke. Except for the dreaded public speaking class. I definitely could not have gotten out of that one! However, I pushed myself. I wanted to get better. Now, I can use this skill to provide for my family and inspire others.

So, long story short, get out of your “comfort zone!” Try something new this year! Eat something new every Sunday. That’s what we do, as a family. Live a little!



P.S. Picture is from Homer, Alaska!